Dating older man 20
Now, I’m not saying every older man is ready to settle down again. But they’ll be more upfront about it if they’re older.
At least then you know immediately whether you want to pursue something with him or not, based on whether your goals are aligned.
I grew up the only child of older parents (who are also 10 years apart), and often felt like an awkward old lady trapped inside a teeny-bopper’s body. I admit, I wasn’t as physically attracted to him as I had been to other partners. Have you ever seen a girl with a hideous boyfriend and thought, “Seriously, how the f$*k did he pull that off? Either he's just a nice friggin’ dude; or being with him boosts her self-confidence. In my case, the age gap was actually a cavernous black hole defying space and time. He’s old and sick now, and she takes care of him (even financially), but she’s still partying and sleeping around. I sometimes imagine what would have happened if I had stayed with my older man.
A young man doesn’t know what he wants, and so he plays those cat-and-mouse games we all hate.Chalk it up to older men having more life experience: they tend to be more confident.They’ve been around the block: sexually, financially, career-wise, and in love. They carry themselves with a cocksure attitude that you find appealing.While all of these won’t be true of every older man (after all, many suffer from Peter Pan syndrome), as a whole, you’re going to realize more of these benefits with an older man. There’s a good chance he’s midway in his career, and therefore at least somewhat financially stable. It basically is the opposite of being broke, which is a libido-killer for most women.Being financially stable isn’t about making 0k a year. It’s nice to date a man who can afford to pay for dinner.