She will completely shut down and not talk to you or even acknowledge your existence. Understand that in the East saving face is a big deal.People do not want to disrupt the harmony of the household by throwing a fit.The Filipina will exhibit Tampo by giving you extreme silent treatment.The first time that you experience this it will come as a big shock.I decided it was time for a serious change in my life, so I saved for a year, sold my car and anything else that could be sold, bought a one-way ticket and left the UK with nothing but my backpack.It was whilst travelling through Laos by motorbike with my best friend that I stumbled across this young Filipino backpacker.Being from the United Kingdom, you inevitably become accustomed to Western ways and of course in turn, Western women. In the UK, if a person, known or unknown, were to arrive at your door, for what we’ll assume is some good and honest reason, then you would at first be a little suspicious. Even before you can manage a single, socially awkward , ‘Err, hello, so nice to meet you,’ you’ll already have met Mum, Dad, the grandparents and anyone else who happens to be in easy reach.Having left Britain some time ago and having now been with Kach for over a year, I thought I’d reflect on some of the things I’ve learned being in a relationship with a Filipina and how I may have changed in the process. ‘They must want something from me,’ you would think, or even more sadly, ‘What? Not only that, but quite literally out of nowhere, there will appear enough food to feed a small village for a week.
However, when you’re in a long-term relationship with someone from another country and culture, then you begin to see the differences much more clearly. ’ Now, in stark contrast, if you find yourself at the front door of a Filipino and are invited inside, then you’ll discover that they are some of the warmest, most welcoming people on the planet.For Kach, everything is a potential discount, matter how small.She will quite happily spend half an hour trying to negotiate 5 cents off the price of an apple and then perform a victory dance on upon completion of the deal! The mysterious truth It’s a well-trodden stereotype in the West that Asian women are exceptionally loving, loyal and generous to their men and this is certainly true of Filipino women (though I’ve only known one! However, let it be crystal clear that this is not the same as subservient; personally I want a relationship, an equal partner.British traveler Jon Howe recalls his experience dating a fellow long-term adventurer, Filipino Kach Medina.What was supposed to be a two-week visit for them has since turned into almost two years together Back in 2005 and for about 10 years before, I was living in the UK, studying architecture and working 9-to-5s in different architectural practices.