Internet dating is hard
One dating expert said “If you are a black woman on and you’re not going to initiate contact then you are not going to date.
That’s just the reality.” To get any response at all, black women have to reach out roughly 1.5 times the amount of any other group — and they are still the group that’s the least responded to.
Most daters on mainstream sites like OKCupid, Tinder and are white.
And the statistics say that most of those white men are looking to date someone who “share their racial background.” That means that, for the most part, black women’s profiles are passed by.
The online dating landscape doesn’t look great for women now.
But analysts predict that by 2017, African-Americans will be the most represented out of any ethnic group online.
As for what you should do with this guy, it sounds to me like your mind is already made up. Staying with him when your heart’s not in it is doing neither of you any favors.
Just recognize that you’d actually like this guy more if he pulled away more and cared about you less.
You’ll find them attractive, but they generally won’t want to stick around with a single mom who has all your responsibilities. I do however get a bit exacberated at all the women who claim that ‘i just want a nice guy.’ That kind of sentiment doesn’t do justice to yourself or the men who want to date you.
That could mean a lot more dating opportunities for black women on mainstream sites.
Until mainstream online dating sites catch up on colorblindness, many experts say that black women have more success on sites like Meld, Black People Meet or other sites designed for black people and the people interested in dating them.
There was only one way to find out: put up a fake woman’s profile and see what happens. A friend of mine had paid for his Match profile in advance, but had met a great girl and no longer needed it.
Dying to find out what it was really like for the females, we jumped into action.